BabyA finally arrived, and I’m slowly adjusting to being a mother of two (or three, as I treat my dog Cotton like a son). Although it can get a little overwhelming at times, it’s been an amazing experience. The three hour around-the-clock breastfeeding cycle is the easy part. The hard part is trying to divide my love and attention for my babies. Just this afternoon, all three of them were fighting for my attention at the same time! I knew it would be impossible to give BabyM all my attention upon BabyA’s arrival and that was also my biggest fear. Here are a few things I did, and am doing with BabyM in preparation for BabyA’s arrival.
1. Read ‘I’m a new big sister‘ with BabyM and explained to her how things will be different.
2. Explained to her what’s inside my belly as my bump got bigger. Let her feel the baby’s movement.
3. Discussed with her potential baby names. (She was obsessed with calling BabyA MamaMia for some reason)
4. Took her to pick out a present for her baby sister and at the same time prepared a gift for her on behalf of BabyA.
1. Brought BabyM to the hospital to visit BabyA.
2. Include BabyM as much as possible in the daily activities involving BabyA so that she doesn’t feel left out.
3. Set aside one-on-one time for BabyM.
4. Encourage BabyM to talk about her feelings about BabyA.
Although I’ve prepared BabyM fairly well, it’s inevitable for her to struggle a bit as she tries to adjust. As soon as BabyA was born, BabyM immediately had her ‘big sister’ hat on and was trying to take care of her baby sister. She would try to rush into BabyA’s room to comfort her when she was crying and tell her not to cry because she’s there for her. However, there are of course occasions where she would act up.
Bloomers – Pink Bowtique (old)